From the Mailbag

Recently, a friend emailed me to vent about the cost of an FRG event.  She explained the event and then the cost (which was a lot.)  She said that she had declined the invitation due to the cost, and she sounded a little angry at being asked to attend something so expensive.  She also asked if she was being unreasonable.

This stimulated a lively debate amongst our group, and got me thinking about some of the incidental costs of being a military family.  Whether it is a required new uniform item, attendance at a social event or paying into a coffee fund, there are some expenses that are unique to military families.  Even expenses that also sometimes occur in the civilian world are often mandatory in the military.

Who decides about these expenses, and who decides what is optional and what is mandatory?  The answer is different for each individual item.  Obviously, we don't have control over uniforms. We might, however, be able to influence the types of events that our FRG plans, or be the person who goes out and finds a way to offset expenses that come up.  Sometimes, as my friend did, we can be the person who stands up and says, "That is a little out of my budget."

I'm curious:  Do you find that military life makes unusual financial demands?  How do you handle them?  Do you have any advice for the rest of us?